pregnancy…

Cheers, Deborah

Here is one reference:

‘Domestic violence and mental health’

Christchurch school of medicine and health sciences

http://www.chmeds.ac.nz/newsevents/media_release/dom_violence.htm

Also worth noting is the Dunedin Multidisciplinary Health & Development Study, which found that domestic violence is neither exclusively
nor even predominantly a male problem, but generally takes the form of
low-level brawling involving both men and women.

Do you want any more? There are plenty of them!

Kind regards

Darryl

Thanks.

“Who is Right?”, you ask.

My figures are based on scholarly research carried out by the Universities of Otago and Canterbury.

The figures quoted on the radio came from the abuse industry.

Go figure.

Kind regards

Darryl

The point that I am trying to make here, which is the point that a lot of people are missing, is that it is not necessary to put a policy in place that has at it’s heart the assumptions that only men carry out domestic violence and that all men are to be regarded with suspicion in these matters.

It is difficult enough to raise good young men in this society without those in charge promulgating policy such as this.

There are other ways to reach more people than asking these questions of the few women who present at hospital.

As to the stats I have used, they refer to stats posted earlier in this blog.

“Tests in Counties-Manukau have found that 21 per cent of women attending Middlemore Hospital’s adults’ and children’s emergency departments, and 23 per cent of female patients at a Raukura Hauora o Tainui health clinic, answered “yes” to at least one of three questions about recent family violence.”

These results refer to those who went to hospital. What about the wider community?

Personally, I am of the opinion that we need a widespread campaign promoting the type of family we want. Push the positives, give men something to aspire to. We all know that Good Men do not beat their wives. We need to promote the best in men, not highlight the worst.

“New screening questions in South Auckland clinics are finding that one in every five women has suffered domestic violence in the past year”.

No, 1 in 5 women have REPORTED that they suffered domestic violence. A subtle difference that is obviously lost on some.

eeerrr but many christchurch parents walked away with ACC cheques just for sayig their poopsy was interferred with by Peter Ellis. Perhaps women are more honest these days?

The bureaucrats get statistics to show that they are addressing the problem and the “abuse response” staff get further overworked as every women answers “yes” to at least one of the questions

if your figures are correct and as many as one in four men hit their partners, then asking 4 women if they have been abused gives a liklihood that one will say yes – uncovering that abuse could then save lives, see a wrongerdoer punished, and lead to a better life for victims -

Asking all women 3 simple questions to start a process that can deliver such dramatic positive results seems pretty worthwhile to me

Most women questioned in the pilot programme thought the questions were a good idea

Obviously, one can stretch any of these questions to include perfectly normal events that are not abusive, but they are framed broadly to encourage any abuse to come to light – women are not going to be saying ‘he criticised my cooking’ or ‘he wanted some the other night when I didn’t’ – anyone realises those are not the circumstances bieng asked for, grow up.

A lot of the answer to that question depends on how you measure violence and how objective this measure (and indeed the researcher) is. A lot of the controversy centres around the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS) used to measure violence and whether the perpetration of violence should be counted or the receipt of violence.

I haven’t got the answers at my fingertips but you may be interested in this series of articles. Although NZMJ is fairly well slanted the liberal side at least it is still a peer review medical journal and hopefully more balanced that sensationalist media.

however, you question does highlight the straw man that the feminists have thrown up – in a response to killing of children the discussion has been totally diverted to partner violence!

You will see in one of those articles that an estimated 1/3 of domestic murders is children. while I dispute the absolute figures a bit I think that ratio is probably about correct.

Giles J (2005) ‘Woman bites dog’–making sense of media and research reports that claim women and men are equally violent. N Z Med J 118: U1731
http://www.nzma.org.nz/journal/118-1225/1731/

Goodyear-Smith F (2005) Response to the ‘woman bites dog’ article on domestic violence. N Z Med J 118: U1767
http://www.nzma.org.nz/journal/118-1226/1767/

Giles J (2006) ‘Woman bites dog’ article on domestic violence: author’s reply to Dr Goodyear-Smith’s letter. N Z Med J 119: U1813
http://www.nzma.org.nz/journal/119-1228/1813/

If you can’t open them, let me know and I’ll email them to you.

Cheers

3 little questions. Anyone who has been in any long term relationship would be able to answer in the affirmative to most, if not all of these questions.

Most Men would be able to as well. Have I been hurt in a relationship? Yes. I have had a woman take a swing at me. I have felt marginalised in relationships. I have been cheated on, insulted, dumped, sworn at etc. (admittedly not by my current partner who I love dearly and who loves me in return).

As to being controlled or criticised, What kind of question is that? If one partner does something that was a bit stupid, and we are all capable of that, we can expect to be criticised for it. God knows I get it at home, and I’m sure most men do to a certain point.

I do not set out to control my wife. she does not set out to control me. But in ANY relationship there will be an element of compromise. This is part and parcel of a marriage. I accept that I cannot do everything that I want to, because I am part of something greater.

As to the third question, I have asked my wife for sex when she was not in the mood. So yes, she could answer yes to question 3, however, She politely declines my advances, or feigns a headache. That is the end of the matter.

Given the stats mentioned earlier in this post, at least 75% of men do not beat their wives, yet this questions are to be asked of 100% of women in hospital! This is like questioning all motorbike riders regarding the activities of the Highway 61 gang, or All Maori about the activities of Black Power.

And if 10% of domestic is carried out by women on men, why are these men not to be assisted in this way?

This is a Militant feminist policy and must be challenged by decent people.

who is right?

The Labour marxist matriarchy has over stepped the mark this time !!

Family abuse queries reveal one-in-five toll
New Zealand Herald
1 August 2007

It will also facilitate the process of false accusations in relationship breakdowns and we all know who the guilty party will be until proven innocent (which is well nigh impossible once the accusation is leveled)

But if you aren’t with ‘em you’re agin’ ‘em – so be very circumspect about arguing against this strategy.

God help us from such lunacy.