Love does blind

They say loves makes you blind, and this seems to be the case with Lydia Jordan.

The private school girlfriend of convicted murderer Haiden Davis clashed furiously with the family of his victim on a Bebo memorial page this week.

Seventeen-year-old Lydia Jordan, from St Heliers in Auckland, told the grieving friends and family of Augustine Borrell that she and her jailed boyfriend were as much victims as they were.

Umm no they are not. He chose to kill someone and you chose to be his boyfriend. The Borrells did not choose to have their son killed.

Jordan was educated at the $27,000-a-year Wanganui Collegiate School and is considering beginning a law degree next semester. She met Davis while he was on bail on the murder charge.

I can understand someone standing by a current partner, who commits a horrible crime. But why on Earth would you start dating someone who is on bail for murder?

She wrote on the page: “I’ve been nothing but polite to your family and I respect your loss but does that mean that someone else should lose their life over an accident? What good is it going to do to lock Haiden up for the rest of his life. We should be rehabilitating him … Everyone’s victims in this situation.”

The main purpose is to protect others from him. And rehabilitation has not worked so well to date with him – Davis already had a dozen criminal convictions by the time of the murder. And Davis in court showed no remorse swearing as he was led away.

Jordan was unrepentant and claims the presence of Borrell’s family in the courtroom influenced the jury to find Davis guilty.

The killing was not pre-meditated, she insisted, so her boyfriend should not have been convicted of murder. “It was a split-second thing – he didn’t plan to kill anyone. He was trying to protect his friend,” she said.

“I think it was really stupid because there was no evidence for a motive and it shouldn’t have been murder. I think it was, like, the Borrell family being there that put a lot of pressure on the jury.”

Yes how dare the familt of the victim turn up to court.

Jordan said her boyfriend’s life sentence would achieve nothing: “Like, when Haiden gets out and he’s 30, he’ll have no job or anything. So do you think he’s going to turn to a life of crime? Err, yes!”

It is sad she can not see her boyfriend has been living a life of crime for the last few years. 12 convictions by the time you are 20 is a shocking number.

She told her parents only shortly before the trial that Davis was her boyfriend – to her mother’s dismay. “I think mum is very disappointed. She thinks I am getting into the wrong crowd and stuff.”

And the mum is right. I’ve seen wonderful women destroy their lives, because of the men they choose, and being unable to realise that most criminals will never change their ways.

“I have such a good life, a privileged life. I feel I owe it back to the community to help Haiden.”

There are millions of ways you can help the community. Sadly, defending the actions of Haiden Davis is unliely to be one of them.