Reaction to rape

April 22nd, 2010 at 7:51 pm by The Wanderer

I came accross a new website here the other day, called Kuwait Exposed , where people can anonymously post their “confessions”. While most of the posts are pretty lame and rather whiny, I was disgusted to read a confession of rape .  I’m inclined to believe it as genuine following the poster’s further comment in response to some of the other comments (where he was stupid enough to use his own name – not that that’ll assist in any legal action, which is highly unlikely to eventuate in any case).

It’s surprisingly easy enough to live in a place like this and let the dichotomy of an expat vs Kuwaiti view on the world pass you by, and many people do, despite experiencing the differences on a daily basis.

What struck me most about this “confession” was the reaction in the comments. This creature says he loves this poor girl, whom he has raped.  He seems to realise on some level that what he has done is wrong, but he still sees her as the future wife and mother of his children.

And many of the commenters seem to as well! For example:

” Telling ur mother idf the best thing to do even taking her with u wen u are going to Apologize, the virginity thing could be fixed only if she have an adult helping her. Then if u truly wanna show her that u love her ask ur mam to call hers and engage her to u !” [sic]

“If you really love her and want to make it up, there is a way you could do it. if I were in your place, I would go and ask for her hand in marriage.”

Some don’t even see a need to confess: “what’s left is between you and God”

The comments about the need/ability to “fix” a loss of virginity have got to stop you in your tracks also.

Compare that to comments from those with Western names.

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5 Responses to “Reaction to rape”

  1. Danyl Mclauchlan (1,071 comments) says:

    You might want to take your blood pressure pills before you read this recent article about abduction, rape and marriage in Ethiopia:

    http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/africa/abducted-raped-married-can-ethiopias-wives-ever-break-free-1922263.html

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  2. MikeNZ (3,234 comments) says:

    The comments about the need/ability to “fix” a loss of virginity have got to stop you in your tracks also.

    David
    I can’t believe that you are so uninformed about the Arab/Mediterranean/African mindset around the value of virginity.
    Of course some of that can be based on the pride of their bride being a virgin but they are happy to screw around if they can..

    They kill their women for slighting their manhood or family honour.
    Women are chattels owned by the men in the family.
    This undergirds their societies, in Islam a woman has less worth than a 12 yr old boy and less rights in court as a witness too.

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  3. The Wanderer (6 comments) says:

    Hi MikeNZ, it’s a guest post from me, not from DPF. I’m not uninformed, but when you come across the sexual laxity that frequently prevails here amongst both sexes, it does come as a surprise reminder when you run up against repairing virginity being a priority over the other effects of a rape, both mental and physical, not to mention justice. Mind you, it was a similar reaction I had at coffee last night with an ME friend who told me about losing his virginity at 19 and going “through the backdoor” to preserve her virginity. Charming, I’m sure.

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  4. sonic (2,818 comments) says:

    I’m so glad that rape only happens amongst those uncivilised Arabs and never in our glorious western cultures!

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  5. MikeNZ (3,234 comments) says:

    Hi wanderer

    it does come as a surprise reminder when you run up against repairing virginity being a priority over the other effects of a rape

    surprise?
    the penalty for ruining her chances are
    1. they have to marry her which screws their family planning for them.
    2. they have taken value from one of another clans woman – so there is a price to pay and possibly a jean reno type action-reaction.
    3. depending on who she and her clan is in the community – they lower their worth in the eyes of the community too.

    back door?
    Didn’t you know that is what little boys in the maddrassa are for…

    Old Arab/Hindi/ proverb – women are for babies, men are for love.

    sonic
    rape is also known as the little death.

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