Parenting more than full-time

April 5th, 2013 at 11:24 am by David Farrar

Stuff reports:

Being a parent takes up more time each day than a fulltime job, Statistics New Zealand figures show.

The average Kiwi parent spent more than eight hours a day caring for children, and some mothers were spending twice that, social statistics manager Steve Manning said.

Parents with children under 14 spent on average eight hours and 18 minutes a day caring for their children.

“The information from the Time Use Survey 2009-10 shows mothers on average spend four hours a day more than fathers caring for children,” Mr Manning said.

“Mothers of young children [under 5 years] spend on average 12 hours a day caring for them.”

This doesn’t surprise me. I think those who have not had kids can only imagine the intensity of being a parent.

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23 Responses to “Parenting more than full-time”

  1. kowtow (8,485 comments) says:

    Yes and we really care about the world they have to grow up in.

    One being destroyed by the valueless “progressives”.

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  2. pollywog (1,153 comments) says:

    Make you wonder where they’ll find time to work 20 hours a week under Bennetts reforms and still maintain quality care of their children eh?

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  3. Dennis Horne (2,403 comments) says:

    (All) Poofs to the pump.

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  4. RRM (9,924 comments) says:

    Tell me more about those nasty progressives Kowtow.

    My daughter knows I’ll still love her even if she turns out to be gay, or believes in the sky fairy…

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  5. PaulL (5,981 comments) says:

    Sounds like another meaningless study.
    1. If we accept that women are disproportionately primary caregiver, particularly for children under school age, then it’s sort of obvious that women would do more child care than men. If that meant that the men were sitting around drinking beer during that time then it’d be worth discussing, but if the men are spending those 4 hours at work then the only interesting thing here is the same thing we always knew – for many NZ families the model when the kids are young is that Dad goes to work and Mum stays at home with the children

    2. Sure, there’s lots of work in kids. But I also reckon that the average stay at home Mum would probably say that she spends 12 hours a day looking after the kids. Because that’s what she does. But somewhere in there she also probably does the washing, vacuuming, cooking etc. So she probably also spends 4 hours a day doing housework. Did she spend 16 hours a day? No, some of that stuff happened at the same time. But I bet that the surveys on who does housework don’t reflect that either.

    In short, it’s another one of those surveys designed to make a certain group in society feel smug, and another group in society get a tsk tsk and finger waving about how they don’t pull their weight. But funnily enough NZ families continue to make these choices.

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  6. dime (9,972 comments) says:

    pollywog – same place working parents find the time?

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  7. James Stephenson (2,180 comments) says:

    I think those who have not had kids can only imagine the intensity of being a parent.

    On the other hand, the ability that simple things like kicking a ball with you kids, has to make you forget about work-type stress, is something that you can also only imagine. I wouldn’t swap.

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  8. Andrei (2,657 comments) says:

    Make you wonder where they’ll find time to work 20 hours a week under Bennetts reforms and still maintain quality care of their children eh?

    That’s the whole idea of marriage you silly sausage,a woman who has a husband to support her while she has young kids has the time as well as the support to do what is necessary to ensure the well being of her kids as she and her husband raise them together.

    This is fundamentally what marriage is about!!!! It is not about getting a license from the government to bless sodomy though our enlightened seem to think it is in these days of wonder.

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  9. kowtow (8,485 comments) says:

    Ah the joys of the “kicking the ball with the little un ” stage. Yes lovely.

    Sadly soon to be outdone by the stresses of the “I can do whatever the fuck I like” stage.

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  10. Cunningham (844 comments) says:

    dime (5,864) Says:

    April 5th, 2013 at 11:34 am
    pollywog – same place working parents find the time?

    Hahaha great comeback there Dime!

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  11. Viking2 (11,471 comments) says:

    What a load of unmitigated garbage.
    what it maybe should show is that some women spend various amounts of time looking after children.
    Currently the state seems to pay for mothers to abandon that role to child care centres and of course schools whilst they either work or sup latte’s etc.

    where do these people manufacture this crap from?

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  12. Nigel Kearney (1,013 comments) says:

    > The average Kiwi parent spent more than eight hours a day caring for children, and some
    > mothers were spending twice that, social statistics manager Steve Manning said.

    More than 16 hours a day means the kids are getting less than 8 hours sleep which is definitely not enough. Or the guy was misquoted or is pulling numbers out of his ass and the credulous repeater lapped it up.

    You have to be careful what you are comparing. I have done both of the following:

    1. Cook, clean, do washing, shop, and take care of two pre-schoolers
    2. Work a full day at the office then come home and spend time with the kids, but not cook, clean, do washing or shop

    I definitely have more time to myself in the first scenario than in the second and it’s not close. Even more so if the kids are school age. If they aren’t spending significant amounts of time playing by themselves after the age of about three then something has gone badly wrong.

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  13. Elaycee (4,392 comments) says:

    Pollywog / Black With a Crap Attitude / Pollywannacracka / Whatever alias today:

    It doesn’t matter what name you use – the message is still the same.

    The world does not owe you a living. Get used to it.

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  14. pollywog (1,153 comments) says:

    That’s just it dime.

    They don’t have the time. If they did we wouldn’t get freaks and ferals like most kids these days:)

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  15. dime (9,972 comments) says:

    “They don’t have the time. If they did we wouldn’t get freaks and ferals like most kids these days:)”

    yeah true. cause before the new “work or study 20 hours a week” policy, the chicks on the DPB were churning out the cream of society.

    the mums who worked were raising the future crims.

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  16. kowtow (8,485 comments) says:

    polly

    that’s just the problem.

    the freaks and ferals are the ones being produced by the ones with the time. (for the most part but not exclusively)

    they just don’t spend their time with them,or what time spent is negative ,as opposed to kicking that ball or reading or just being a loving caring parent.The things that most economists and politicians don’t measure but what actually counts the most.

    The hand that rocks the cradle as opposed to the hand that’s always out.

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  17. nasska (11,510 comments) says:

    It is true that in a past life that the socialist wealth re-distributors get all dewy eyed about, most women stayed at home & looked after the kids while the men went to work. It is also true that they lived reasonably well on that one wage.

    Conveniently the memory fade or the inability to research history that these whinging know-alls suffer from blinds them to a few facts such as:

    1) A typical (new) home in the 50’s & 60’s seldom exceeded 100sq/m.

    2) One car, never mind a second or third plus a boat, was barely affordable to a family on an average wage.

    3) No home theatres, wide screen TVs, computers, electronic toys & few labour saving household gadgets.

    4) Kids slept two or three to a bedroom.

    5) Overseas holidays…..you’re joking!

    6) People had gardens where they grew their own veges.

    7) Women made or mended most of the family’s clothing.

    8) Shopping was done as necessary….not as a pastime.

    9) Most kids left school at 15/16 & contributed a good portion of their wages to the household budget until they got married themselves.

    Now, if our socialist (think of the children) wankers want to go back to the day when women didn’t have to work perhaps they could make the first move by living to the standards considered the norm when one wage earner’s productivity supplied the family’s needs.

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  18. the conservative (66 comments) says:

    I wonder if homosexuals understand this; how are they going to fit in parenting with their f**k buddies?

    http://www.nzaf.org.nz/files/100928web_ready.pdf

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  19. Chuck Bird (4,884 comments) says:

    “My daughter knows I’ll still love her even if she turns out to be gay, or believes in the sky fairy…”

    Would you still refer to the sky fairy?

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  20. Judith (8,534 comments) says:

    Its not the amount time spent parenting that worries me, its the quality of parenting some children are getting.

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  21. Johnboy (16,554 comments) says:

    “This doesn’t surprise me. I think those who have not had kids can only imagine the intensity of being a parent.”

    Got a few have you then David? :)

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  22. Johnboy (16,554 comments) says:

    “Mothers of young children [under 5 years] spend on average 12 hours a day caring for them.”

    Should we be checking this data against the data regarding ethnicity so beloved of our census gatherers?

    Just to see if there might possibly be a bit of a curve, like say a hockey stick, in the resultant data! :)

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  23. Left Right and Centre (2,979 comments) says:

    Its not the amount time spent parenting that worries me, its the quality of parenting some children are getting.

    You’ve got it. I swear I read half the thread, thought your comment to a tea while getting cup of tea, then came back and read that comment.

    Shit parents = shit kids. Good parents = good kids. It’s that fucking simple.

    Spend all day with a dumbarse… you turn out a dumbarse. In and out of childcare but smart parents? Smart kids.

    dime, nasska… on fire.

    I’m prepared to believe that for good parents, the effort is more taxing. Not the lowlives. Their kids are just…. *around*. They don’t ‘take care’ of them as such- more than just keep them alive doing the bare minimum, like the kid is on ‘learning life support’.

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