The mother’s side

January 11th, 2014 at 9:19 am by David Farrar

Stuff reports:

The woman said she had been at a close friend’s tangi out of town with her son on Tuesday – his ninth birthday.

They returned home in the afternoon and he went to play with friends across the road while she prepared dinner.

She said she had no idea that he had taken off to the skate park, about a kilometre away.

She understood a woman, aged in her mid-20s, gave her son the at the park.

“I don’t know her. I know of her,” she said. “I think they thought it would be funny.”

Police said he consumed eight pre-mixed bourbon and cola cans and two liqueur shots.

He came home about 6pm stinking of Lynx deodorant and behaving strangely.

“We were like, ‘Oh my god, he’s drunk’. Then we sorted him out and put him to lie down and that’s when the police turned up.”

She co-operated with police and has ongoing support from Child Youth and Family.

She said the young man who claimed to be the boy’s “big brother” in the video, and said it was “all good” that he was drunk, had since apologised to her.

She said she rarely drank alcohol and had never given it to her son, but would educate him about its dangers.

If she has never given alcohol to her son, then it is unfair to hold her directly responsible and she does seem genuinely shocked.

A reservation I have though is that I highly doubt that is the first time the nine year old has drunk alcohol. He had something like 18 standard drinks. If you’ve never drunk alcohol before and you weigh only around 30 kgs, then you’d be vomiting and passing out after just a few standard drinks.

So while I hope this is something that happened as a once off and with no family involvement, I am a bit cynical.

UPDATE: The Herald reports on a photo showing two more of her children with alcohol. The cynicism may be justified.

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19 Responses to “The mother’s side”

  1. igm (1,413 comments) says:

    I bet this woman’s statement has not been substantiated nor researched.

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  2. CHFR (229 comments) says:

    Sorry just don’t believe her.

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  3. marcw (251 comments) says:

    A 9 year old would be dead if even he had drunk 6 of these cans. The 18 can claim is BS.

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  4. Colville (2,272 comments) says:

    8 RTD cans of bourbon and cola? that is like 2-3 litres. How long for a kid to drink 3 litres?
    So a stranger gave a kid $20 worth of booze for what reason?
    I think the kid flogged it and drank it.
    This woman is full of shit.

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  5. PaulP (150 comments) says:

    A posed photo when cleaning up (her explanation in the Herald article) would generally mean the bottles would be empty. The photo clearly shows the bottles of beer are not empty.

    I don’t believe her.

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  6. flipper (4,084 comments) says:

    Do not misread me.

    I hold no brief for folk who use tangis as an excuse for absence at anytime.
    But how do we know WHAT is in the bottles?

    On the balance of probabilities it does not look good. But proof?

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  7. RRM (9,933 comments) says:

    A posed photo when cleaning up (her explanation in the Herald article) would generally mean the bottles would be empty. The photo clearly shows the bottles of beer are not empty.

    I don’t believe her.

    Odd sort of rationale. There have been plenty of half-full beers lying around after I’ve parties I’ve cleaned up the next day.

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  8. Longknives (4,767 comments) says:

    A photo showing more of her children with bottles of booze!
    Christ how many feral children does this woman have? Does she live in a fucking shoe?
    I’d love to know just how much of our cash WINZ throws at this disgrace every week…

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  9. flash2846 (287 comments) says:

    Lies! Lies! and more Lies! The little shit was supplied alcohol purchased by someone older; that person must be found and punished.
    Looking to the future the chances that the little shit grows to be a danger to himself and more importantly others is about 100%

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  10. Maureenw (5 comments) says:

    “A woman in her mid 20s gave her son alcohol in the park”.

    Sure she did.

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  11. Colville (2,272 comments) says:

    Longknives.
    5 kids between 7 and 12 yrs old.

    How much a week is that?

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  12. Colville (2,272 comments) says:

    DPF, I think its 11 std drinks. 250 ml cans @ 7% – 1.4 std drinks each each.

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  13. ManuT (54 comments) says:

    Longknives.
    5 kids between 7 and 12 yrs old.

    How much a week is that?

    TOO BLOODY MUCH!!!!!!!

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  14. holysheet (402 comments) says:

    In the shades of the len brown question

    Have the police laid charges yet? if not why not?

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  15. Than (475 comments) says:

    The mother’s reaction is about the only bit of good news to come from this incident – it’s clear she is completely (and quite rightly) ashamed. Whether or not she was aware of her children drinking in the past, she will be making damn sure they don’t in future.

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  16. dime (9,980 comments) says:

    I have a picture of me as a four year old pretending to drink a long neck lion red…

    I remember stealing beers with my elder brothers and buddies from parties when I was 10.. When we were at our holiday house..

    I’m sure many others have too.

    In saying that, odds on she is full of crap, a garbage parent and is raising 5 future drains on the economy

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  17. Steve (North Shore) (4,565 comments) says:

    This has to be ‘someone elses’ fault Govt, National, John Key?

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  18. wf (448 comments) says:

    @ dime – your story reminds me that many years ago we had a mighty party to celebrate something – maybe just because it was Saturday – and quite naturally slept in on Sunday morning.
    Woke to find that Master 6 and Miss 4 had used the early morning peace to sample the remnants in various bottles and glasses, and were comatose on the couch. I wish we had taken photos –
    Panicked dash to A&E saw stomach washouts (for the kids) and severe chastisement of parents by medical staff. No harm was done, and they didn’t turn out to be incurable alcoholics, but needless to say, we cleared up before bed forever after.

    It’s much more pleasant to get up to a tidy house than a pile of empties and filled ashtrays.

    Kids will do what they can get away with.

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  19. Azeraph (605 comments) says:

    Biology, we’re all different individually. Some can take a lot some can’t but this thread stinks of racism, it’s built into us, all of us, every human on the planet. It’s a genetic response to you and your gene type. If you look the same and talk like me then we are the same.

    What a bunch of Retardic Vaginas, If you’re old man never gave you a sip when you were little then you’re going to die of colon cancer due to a case of being too tight up the ass. Hell i nicked 2 bottles of red when i was 9 with my neighbor and got trashed under the table. the one that should be trashed publicly is the one who gave it to him.

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