Why should she be humiliated or embarrassed

May 9th, 2014 at 10:00 am by David Farrar

The Herald reports:

Shortland Street star Teuila Blakely has spoken of the “pain, humiliation and embarrassment” her tape with a Warriors player has caused.

The short video – which also featured Warriors centre Konrad Hurrell, 22 – briefly leaked online on Monday, and Blakely quickly admitted it was her, saying the tape “wasn’t meant to have been leaked”.

Blakely, 39, took to her Facebook page to apologise and discuss the “pain, humiliation and embarrassment” the video had caused her friends and family.

What humiliated or embarrassment?

She’s 39, and she scored a 22 year old league star. I’m sure most of her friend are giving her high fives and saying “You go girl”.

Bit of a double standard. If a 39 year old actor scored say a 22 year old Silver Fern, they wouldn’t feel pressured to apologise for pain and humiliation. They’d be down at the local pub shouting drinks.

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64 Responses to “Why should she be humiliated or embarrassed”

  1. dog_eat_dog (781 comments) says:

    Woe is me, my profile has been raised enormously because no one cares about Shortland Street – A Women’s Weekly exclusive.

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  2. wikiriwhis business (4,016 comments) says:

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  3. JC (958 comments) says:

    Hasn’t she got a son of similar age? Yeah, she’d be mortified.

    JC

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  4. lastmanstanding (1,297 comments) says:

    Shes a stupid bint and hes an over paid under talented git.

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  5. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    Our host has grown a pair and not bought into the “women are victims” narrative that is advanced by women to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.

    Good on ya David Farrar :)

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  6. edhunter (547 comments) says:

    The Warriors new Head Coach?

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  7. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    No doubt Kiwibloggers trying to take away attention from Judith Collins who should really be the one receiving death threats

    DEATH THREATS !!!!

    wikiriwhis business, Kea is very disappointed by your mysoginistic hate of women in power :)

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  8. Kimbo (934 comments) says:

    Kea, old chap, at the risk of poking a stick into the cage, would you like to have ago at the obvious religious angle on this?

    As Teuila Blakely is from the very religiously conservative Pasifika community, and through the public release of the recording of an act they do not condone she no doubt DID cause genuine embarrasment to her (older) family members and other relatives who have to front up in church every Sunday…THAT is the reason she is apologising.

    The floor is all yours… :)

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  9. dave53 (91 comments) says:

    This whole thing is a bizarre moral panic.

    Consenting adults particpate in sex acts. Many photograph themselves in the act. So what.

    What lawful right does the NRL have to fine Hurrell $5000 for engaging in a consensual legal sex act? No court in this land has such a draconian power.

    Does every footballer now have to pay $5000 every time they engage in a sex act?

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  10. anonymouse (716 comments) says:

    I think alot of the answers can be found in this interview she gave in 2013

    http://www.nzherald.co.nz/entertainment/news/article.cfm?c_id=1501119&objectid=10863811

    Defiantly single for a decade, Shortland Street actress and writer Teuila Blakely is penning a book on living life alone. It won’t please all her fans – or her conservative Samoan community.

    Although I’m guessing that the book writing has been replaced with other things…..

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  11. adamsmith1922 (890 comments) says:

    Blakely may be humiliated because all she scored was a rugby league player and only one who plays for the Warriors.

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  12. SGA (1,045 comments) says:

    @DPF

    If a 39 year old actor scored say a 22 year old Silver Fern, they wouldn’t feel pressured to apologise for pain and humiliation. They’d be down at the local pub shouting drinks.

    Nah – more likely at the local asking for others to shout them drinks.

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  13. Nuwanda (83 comments) says:

    Are you being obtuse on purpose, DPF?

    It’s not about the fact that she’s fucking a younger man. Who cares? It’s about allowing herself to be recorded having casual sex in the first place.

    “Yeah it was me, but it was a private video between me and Koni and it wasn’t meant to have been leaked.”

    She contends he recorded it “for fun”.

    Oh, duh. You’re having casual sex. The guy is recording it with your knowledge. You’re 39 years old and you’re unaware of the multitude of sex tapes released over the past 20 years? She deserves to be embarrassed and her comments are a pretty weak attempt to make herself look surprised by it all.

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  14. Captain Pugwash (98 comments) says:

    I’d be embarrassed & humiliated too if a “sex tape” involving myself emerged! At least Teuila Blakely hasn’t been fined or suspended from Shortland Street for her involvement.

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  15. SGA (1,045 comments) says:

    dave53 at 10:22 am

    Does every footballer now have to pay $5000 every time they engage in a sex act?

    Only if they are really, really ugly.

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  16. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    Kea, old chap, at the risk of poking a stick into the cage, would you like to have ago at the obvious religious angle on this?

    Kimbo, most religious girls I know are as red blooded as their heathen sisters. At least the Christians don’t jump out of bed at some ungodly hour of the morning to bother god ;)

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  17. Alan (1,087 comments) says:

    She’s Samoan, that makes it different.

    The “humiliated and embarrassed” comments are for consumption in the Samoan community, it’s her showing penance to her family for breaking their social norms.

    Isn’t this staggeringly obvious to everyone ?

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  18. Northland Wahine (667 comments) says:

    Seriously, who really gives a shit.

    The only one she has to explain herself to is her kid and if he can handle it, everybody else should mind their own business.

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  19. Lindsay Addie (1,520 comments) says:

    Perhaps she is embarrassed because she’s been caught cradle snatching? :)

    Must be a slow news week when this story still has legs……….

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  20. RRM (9,924 comments) says:

    DPF:
    What humiliated or embarrassment?

    Um… because there’s a video of her sucking a dude’s cock circulating on the internet?

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  21. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    Breaking news: People have sex – good time had by all – no harm done.

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  22. Huevon (222 comments) says:

    She’s 39?!….that is just so sad.

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  23. wikiriwhis business (4,016 comments) says:

    “wikiriwhis business, Kea is very disappointed by your mysoginistic hate of women in power ”

    haha…good on ya Kea

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  24. wikiriwhis business (4,016 comments) says:

    I think only a handful of people saw the vid.

    Only on one site and got pulled.

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  25. RRM (9,924 comments) says:

    She’s 39?!….that is just so sad.

    She’s pretty tidy, I don’t think I’d have said “no” in his shoes.

    Good for her. Obviously knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to go out and get it. I respect that.

    Just because you do it, doesn’t necessarily follow you want the whole country to see it on video though…

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  26. David Garrett (7,292 comments) says:

    I’m not sure she “scored” him exactly…But I think Alan has probably nailed it..her public mea culpas will go down (sorry) very well with the PI community…but dont get me started on the topic of “Organised religion and the Pacific Islands”…

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  27. wikiriwhis business (4,016 comments) says:

    They let themselves be filmed so obviously media or some outlet are pushing the envelope until

    celebrity sex in public becomes normalised.

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  28. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    RRM, relax. This publicity will turn to Gold for her. I don’t watch TV so I just checked what she looks like. Gorgeous !

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  29. OTGO (551 comments) says:

    “Teuila Blakely is from the very religiously conservative Pasifika community”

    Is there something in the bible about not giving blowies to a younger man? Surely in the new testament there is? Maybe no blowies on Sundays. Or game day. Anybody?

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  30. RRM (9,924 comments) says:

    Although I would not rule out the possibility she did the whole thing as a calculated publicity stunt for her book…

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  31. Akaroa (557 comments) says:

    Who cares? As my old dad used to say when referring to the publicised peccadillos of minor, or even major – prominente: “Everyone is entitled to go to hell – or heaven – in their own way, and its no-one else’s business’ Or, to put it another way; “Let them do what they like as long as it doesn’t frighten the horses!”

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  32. Jack5 (5,137 comments) says:

    Perhaps her agent said: grab this PR opportunity.

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  33. RightNow (6,994 comments) says:

    wtf is wrong with wikiriwhis business? Is he/she really as unhinged as his/her comment at 10:11 suiggests?

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  34. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    RightNow, wiki is a lefty and hates hetrosexual women in power. He thinks they should receive Death Threats to teach them their place.

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  35. secondcumming (93 comments) says:

    Teuila told her friends that all he said was, “blow down this, I think it’s blocked”

    Talk about getting sucked in…….

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  36. simonway (387 comments) says:

    Can you seriously not imagine why someone would be humiliated or embarrassed by having a video of themself engaged in a sex act released?

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  37. prosper (167 comments) says:

    I heard her speaking on Radio and I believe she said she could not be identified from the video. So why didn’t she shut up? Is she following Muldoons philosophy that there is no such thing as bad publicity.

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  38. xy (187 comments) says:

    DPF: that is the shittiest and cruellest thing you’ve posted in a long time. You can’t imagine why someone would be upset about sex tapes on the internet? Really?

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  39. duggie (28 comments) says:

    How am I expected to make an informed comment on this, if I can’t even find the video. Help please.

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  40. prosper (167 comments) says:

    I just saw her photos, I forgive her everything.

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  41. Cunningham (844 comments) says:

    Nuwanda nailed it. I have no problem with 2 consenting adults doing whatever they like but FFS are they really that stupid?

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  42. David Farrar (1,898 comments) says:

    RRM: But is she doing it badly or something? Otherwise, she’s doing what billions have done.

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  43. dime (9,972 comments) says:

    out of all the skanks i know, i can only think of one who wouldnt be embarrassed if a vid of her swallowing cock appeared online and receieved nation wide attention.

    its not like its a viedo of them holding hands.

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  44. aquataur (56 comments) says:

    No-one has mentioned the obvious road safety issues this raises

    Evidently he was driving while being sucked off and taking a selfie as well !

    How the hell could he be concentrating on driving ?

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  45. Kea (12,841 comments) says:

    “RRM: But is she doing it badly or something? ” LOL :)

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  46. Ed Snack (1,873 comments) says:

    I’m close to believing that both of them should be prosecuted……for dangerous driving acts ! The only time I ever tried this (not the selfie bit mind you, no mobiles back then), I nearly went off the road, or should that be came off….—> exits stage right.

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  47. RRM (9,924 comments) says:

    David Farrar (1,815 comments) says:
    May 9th, 2014 at 11:53 am

    RRM: But is she doing it badly or something? Otherwise, she’s doing what billions have done.

    I think it is highly unlikely she’s a rookie – she won’t be doing it badly. :-)

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  48. Tom Jackson (2,553 comments) says:

    Bit of a double standard. If a 39 year old actor scored say a 22 year old Silver Fern, they wouldn’t feel pressured to apologise for pain and humiliation.

    Wouldn’t they have suffered enough already?

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  49. Tauhei Notts (1,715 comments) says:

    I heard on the radio yesterday about “boxing outside the ring”.
    39 year old women are twice as likely to do so as 38 year old women.
    The favourite days for that activity are the day after Mothers’ Day and the day after New Year’s Day.
    Roll on Monday!

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  50. Manolo (13,783 comments) says:

    As P.T. Barnum said: A great sucker is born…

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  51. Bob R (1,375 comments) says:

    The same reason why it’s shameful to be a sl8t: A key that unlock’s a lot of doors is a pretty good key, but a lock that can be unlocked by a number of keys is pretty sh1t.

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  52. Bob R (1,375 comments) says:

    ***She’s Samoan, that makes it different.***

    @ Alan,

    Well, it adds another dimension to it but I suspect any European or Asian actress who got filmed privately sucking d1ck would feel equally disgraced.

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  53. Mark (1,488 comments) says:

    I have no sympathy for either participant here. It is mindbogglingly stupid to have yourself filmed in a sex act and expect that it will not appear on the internet. Simple answer if you want your sexual activity to remain private is don’t film it in the first place.

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  54. noskire (842 comments) says:

    $5000 and all he got was a blowjob – Konrad is the one who should be feeling humiliated.

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  55. Judith (8,534 comments) says:

    Good on her! If I could only work out how to get SBW in the same position I’d have T-shirts printed!!

    (of course I’d need the ol’ boys permission)

    @ noskire
    Yes, the value seems to have increased of late. I remember an article a couple of years back where the girls at a Lower Hutt school were only charging $15 to conduct the same during their lunch breaks. Enterprising young lassies – beats working at Macdonalds at the weekend I guess.

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  56. Changeiscoming (189 comments) says:

    Not everyone is as liberal as you DPF.

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  57. itstricky (1,835 comments) says:

    And wow! Is that *liberal* or what? I mean that’s fairly f’ing liberal to have a sex tape on the Internet and not be humiliated.

    Seriously dude is this some sort of failed post to try and fire up the sexism crowd? Seesh.

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  58. bc (1,367 comments) says:

    Yeah, as others have commented, not one of DPF’s more thoughtful posts. But hey it’s a Friday and maybe the content of the post “distracted” him somewhat!

    If we follow his logic, he is saying he wouldn’t care or less if a sex tape of himself appeared on the internet. Maybe that’s true, who knows, but for most people they would be pretty embarrassed if a private sexual encounter of themselves that they didn’t intend to be made public was suddenly on the net for all to see.

    It’s got nothing to do with morals (which is what DPF seems to be saying) but more to do with the fact that for most people intimate moments are exactly that – intimate.

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  59. Northland Wahine (667 comments) says:

    Hurrel was fined, $5000? If anyone should be bitching it should be him. $5k for a blow job? Bloody expensive if you as me.

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  60. xy (187 comments) says:

    The disappointing thing is that I generally tend to assume that DPF is generally a good person and the commentariat is the problem – but this post is just personally cruel and thoughtless.

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  61. lilman (960 comments) says:

    That 5 k for a BJ is nothing.
    Bloody Shortland st has been bending the NZ taxpayer over for years.

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  62. Duxton (651 comments) says:

    I remember a programme called Shortland Street. It was on in the early 1990s. A mix of bad acting, unknown ‘actors’, and shit story-lines.

    I’m not sure what would be more embarrassing: appearing on a sex tape, or being publically outed as an actress on Shortland Street. She needs to sue someone.

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  63. Duxton (651 comments) says:

    Whikiriwhi:

    “No doubt Kiwibloggers trying to take away attention from Judith Collins who should really be the one receiving death threats..”

    You’re not related to that Maori Battalion scumbag, Monty Whikiriwhi, are you? He was a murdering animal.

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  64. noskire (842 comments) says:

    Apparently Blakely is going to be the new head coach of The Warriors.

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