The cost of sex for women
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:20 pm by David FarrarMost people will have seen a comment at some stage about how much money men spend on sex through dinners, presents, flowers etc.
Cactus Kate has reversed the equation and calculated how much money a woman spends on looking beautiful for men. Her calculations are:
Hair monthly (basic not “hair extensions”) $300 per month = $3600
Waxing and other beauty treatments $100 per month = $1200
Massage, pedicures etc $100 per month = $1200
Make-up/skin cleansers/toners and moisturisers = $300
Annual clothing spend on clothes you only wear out to meet men or with your man = $3000
Personal trainer/gym fees/education and reading material = $300 per month = $3600
Shoes. I consider it compulsory to spend lots of money on fabulous shoes = $2000
Phone calls/Drinks/lunches and dinners with girlfriends to drown your sorrows of bad relationships ie. therapy = $500 per month = $6000
Condoms & contraceptive pills (because lets face it – men over 30 years old totally suck at carrying rubbers) = $400 annually
Sex toys (again men have no clue so girls have to buy – Kiwigirl I am calling you out, you can add a zero here) = $500 annually
Pregnancy and STD checks (compulsory for anyone with half a brain and lets face it – the man doesn’t have to worry about being pregnant in the morning) = $250 per annumSo my rough estimation is a cost of $22,050 annually spent on looking and feeling good in the most part for men.
Kate goes on to say that if she gets sex only once a week then women are paying $424 per bonk, so men should stop whiming about their costs.
Her final advice:
So men, next time you take a single woman to dinner with the intent of asking her home afterwards, don’t ask her to split the bill.
Just shut the fuck up and pay.
Other financial words of wisdom from Kate have been how you don’t book her to fly economy class if you are flying business class!
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July 23rd, 2008 at 4:31 pm
But I thought women, “Looked beautiful for themselves, not men”.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:37 pm
The reality is they look good to compete with and impress each other – guys are weirdly peripheral to the entire process.
Take shoes – when was the last time any straight guy ever checked out a woman’s shoes? Yet they’ll happily lavish astronomical sums on tiny bits of leather and satin.
[DPF: I never check shoes out in NZ, but in Paris I did because every French woman there wears nothing but the finest shoes. You see no one except tourists in sneakers etc]
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:38 pm
They get all the money back and more after the divorce, so really you should look at it as an investment.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:39 pm
Just as well SHE WHO MUST BE OBEYED doesnt read CK or this blog. Otherwise Id be in the u know wot up to my arm pits.
CK sure has a way to let the cat outta the bag and ruin the lives of we poor married men.
It was sooooo much easier in the good old days when a burger and coke the back seat of the pictures followed by the back seat of the car was the standard modus operandi
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:40 pm
Well, courtesans have always been expensive.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:47 pm
If the average single Kiwi woman is spending $22,050 annually on looking good they should study the Consumer Guarantees Act more closely
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:53 pm
Thats a worse ROI than the railways….
How long till the government Nationalises women as a strategic asset then?
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 4:58 pm
Kate can save some of that money because I’m fairly sure men aren’t looking at the shoes.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:07 pm
A typically well-thought-out, and substantive post by Cactus Kate. I mean Jeze, talk about depth, she sounds like a female version of the main character in American Psycho.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 5:09 pm
If shes spending $424 on each bonk then boy do I have a bargin for her.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:13 pm
TOO MUCH INFORMATION KATE! Disclosing info. like that is about as wise, romance-wise, as hanging your douche-bag on your man’s bathroom door or waxing your legs on the dining room table while the bloke is eating. Men don’t need to know too much; it makes them nervous.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:14 pm
I can assure CK that there are a large amount of (clean) women out there who don’t spend anywhere near that amount and get sex more than once a week. There could be a $$ to action ratio that a girl shouldn’t go above if she wants to get maximum bang for her buck. Hell, maybe, just maybe, the dollars for dick approach just isn’t the most efficient? Probably something for an analyst at the “Ministry of Women’s Affairs” to look into.
EDIT: LOL Murray’s in! LOL
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:16 pm
$300 a month on hair!!!!!
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Looking at that list, I realise how cheap plastic surgery really is! $300pm on hair, FFS!! OK, so I’m blessed with hair that needs cutting only about every four months, and I get it cut and coloured at different places, so spending only about $30 a month on colouring instead of $150, but for heaven’s sake!!!
The shoes I totally agree with. And I reckon she’s underestimated the annual cost of cleansers/moisturisers/makeup by a significant degree. Everything else, she’s being ripped off!
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:23 pm
not sure why she wants to spend all that money – as long as she perfects the art of a good blowy the boys wont ( pardon the pun) give a toss what she looks like!
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:23 pm
that girl needs her head checked. I guess that explains the existence magazines like cosmopolitan however
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:30 pm
I have an image of CK in my head that reminds me of Patsy from AB Fab but with a brain and a real job. In reality is she that much larger than life or not ? I am potentially inviting her wrath but still keen to know.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 5:47 pm
That bb shelia is a smart woman.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 6:19 pm
This line amused me
“Personal trainer/gym fees/education and reading material”
Both the order of priority and the fact that CK and other girls only read books or get educated in order to impress men.
Sadly, I think she might be right.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 6:19 pm
Paul – comes from that fact I hail from the south – its been said Im not a bad bloke for a sheila…
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 6:46 pm
bustedblonde
Vote:Well you know the important things to keep a male happy.
From Central are you ?
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:46 pm
You’ve obviously perfected the art then, bb?? I’m impressed. (And here’s me thinking it was a hard road tryna find the perfect shelia)
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 6:47 pm
It was called free love in my long haired hippy days CRAP, FREE LOVE?????, it allways cost me heaps of bourbons and cokes in my youth to get them in the sack
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 7:08 pm
What a bunch of crap….Feminists just can’t quit whining.
Vote:One can’t shut the twittering neurotic up, but you could at least stop quoting her.
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:15 pm
# Lucyna (19) Add karma Subtract karma +4 Says:
July 23rd, 2008 at 4:40 pm
“Well, courtesans have always been expensive.”
Meoooooww! Cat fight brewing between liberal love goddess and Mother Teressa wanabe.
Touch! (in that hot lessie way if you please ladies!……no? bugger!)
Paws!
Engage!
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 7:32 pm
JSF2008
Vote:My old pa told me to stay away from cheap women.
Where the hell does one find a cheap woman ?
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:46 pm
Good one Cactus Kate. Up to your usual standard!
The way to make things work is to actually discuss who pays before the event. Occasionally you might just want to offer, but neither person, regardless of gender or wealth, should have those expectations. Someimes one person’s ability to pay is much greater than the others – so make some mutually agreed arrangements.
As for the sex bit, if it feels right to both (or 3 or 4, if that’s what you’re into) then do it, but who has paid for what shouldn’t be a factor if it is a friendship/relationship you are after.
If you just want a f**k, then go to a brothel and pay for it or pick someone up in a bar and let them clearly know that is all you are after.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 7:48 pm
Yes Roger Nome and Toad – we all realise you would be shocked at that, like hey, what does a number 4 hair cut and nose piercing cost for the average green feminazi these days?
Look at it this way, Helen would have spent 100 times that on air brushing alone – (and it still didn’t work!)
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 7:48 pm
Brought my wife a new pair of gumboots and a new shed apron in town today, should be in tonight.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 9:05 pm
Yes, and then there are some women who spend $22K p.a. on all that when they should have been concentrating on their personality…
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 9:13 pm
For those men that don’t know it (yet), and for those women who haven’t yet found it …..the clitoris is located between the ears.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 9:16 pm
“Shoes. I consider it compulsory to spend lots of money on fabulous shoes = $2000″
*splutter*
Good thing CK isn’t running for Prime Minister with all the flattering posts coming out of Kiwiblog these days…
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 10:28 pm
Paul Marsden – that’s not true – I just tried licking my wife’s face and she punched me. I said “Didn’t that turn you on?” and she hit me again.
Vote:July 23rd, 2008 at 10:34 pm
buggerlugs. Occasionally, you may strike a mutant.
Have you called the police?
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:41 am
Holy Crap. If I met a girl who wasted all that just on “looking and feeling good” I wouldn’t want a bar of it, talk about high mantainence. On the other hand if she droped the ‘tude and instead of bitching about splitting the bill actually offered to get it herself, she’d be half way there at least.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 4:53 am
Reminds me of the Winston Churchill quote:
Churchill: Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?
Vote:Socialite: My goodness, Mr. Churchill… Well, I suppose… we would have to discuss terms, of course…
Churchill: Would you sleep with me for five pounds?
Socialite: Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!
Churchill: Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.
July 24th, 2008 at 9:53 am
$300 on hair.. umm yeah??
you guys never dated a hot chick?
personally, id rather have a chick that spent plenty on herself tha one that shopped at the warehouse..
i know roger and the leftists wouldnt understand, all their chicks are ugly..
when was the last time ya saw a really hot chick protesting? doesnt happen often!
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 10:48 am
I like how gym fees are combined with “education and reading material”, suggesting that the more a woman spends on one, the less she spends on the other.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 10:49 am
when was the last time ya saw a really hot chick protesting? doesnt happen often!
My friend, you’ve been attending the wrong protests.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 10:52 am
well if they have to spend 300 on hair to look hot – then they ain’t hot.
edit: that made sense in my head
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 11:23 am
Maybe it should stayed there.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
yes Lucyna, well as you are stuck in the 16th century believing everyone who has same sex, extramarital and pre-marital sex and those who use contraception are destined for an after-life of hell, its only appropriate you use the term “courtesan”.
Of course in the 21st century there are women like myself who earn substantially more than men do doing what they do, finance their own (sometimes hedonistic) lifestyles to a better standard than men their own age do and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself. This upsets the female Churchy romantics like yourself as it undermines your belief that you can’t live a meaningful life without a husband to bake for.
The true courtesans are women who end up marrying or defacto RPA’ing a wealthy man for the euphemistic term of “security” and therefore use their sexuality to provide themselves a lifestyle from that man that on their own the woman could never have afforded to finance.
There’s plenty of them around and therefore I think paying for a bloody dinner is the least I can demand.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:12 pm
Hagues
It’s safe to say that we won’t be going out any time soon.
Rogernome
I can’t recall that screen character however if it involves killing a twit like yourself in cold blood, I am all for it.
Mara
It’s safe to say I somehow do not seem to get too many “nervous” men approaching me anyway.
Stephen
Straight men should never be allowed an opinion on the cost of hair. You have obviously never investigated the cost of the “colour” component for hair, or walked into a city hair salon even in Auckland. $300 is moderately cheap. The actual price in HK for a cut and colour at Toni and Guy for average length hair is around $NZ600…pity the women with longer hair it can reach close to $800. Ditto the UK.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Cactus Kate “and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself”
I though you wanted him to pay for your share of dinner?
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:25 pm
Cactus Kate “Hagues It’s safe to say that we won’t be going out any time soon.”
Yes considering I said I wouldn’t have a bar of anyone of your ilk thats a very safe bet.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Well I think that says more about Cactus Kate’s disposable income than anything else.
When I review my “career” to date, out of all the significant others the most significant ones have generally not pulled down much more than $22,050 in after-tax income, let alone managed (or desired) to blow that much money on make-up et cetera!
Or is Cactus Kate a bit like the QE2, in that keeping the old girl looking good is by definition an expensive business?
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
“Or is Cactus Kate a bit like the QE2, in that keeping the old girl looking good is by definition an expensive business?”
Coupled with regular viral outbreaks caused by dodgy seamen?
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
Hagues
You are proving to be a blithering idiot. You should engage pee-brain before commenting on an adults blog.
“Cactus Kate “and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself” I though you wanted him to pay for your share of dinner?”
That is entirely my point, I can afford to buy it myself and I have never asked a man to pay for anything I can’t afford myself. I doubt you could afford to eat at McDonalds more than once a week therefore your input is of course going to be rather stunted. I hope every woman going out with you knows in advance that they will be expected to pay for you.
RRM (assume a man based on the context of your comment)
You are never going to understand the initial post if you are dating women that take home $22K in the hand. Students can earn more than that working part-time. You obviously like dating down as it makes you feel superior about your own shortcomings as a man.
If you knew more about the QE2 you will know that it will be decommissioned late 2008 and turned into I imagine a highly profitable hotel in Dubai.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 2:46 pm
Short and Shriveled and something about Left: $300 a month on hair!!!!!
That actually seems a bit low to me. My wife is a stylist. Admittedly, she only works privately and at request but it’s unlikely that somebody would walk away without spending at least that.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Yo Katie – strangely, I have found that most of them have had qualities as human beings that sort-of made up for their shortcomings as earners – who’d have thought, eh?
But you’re right and I do love dating the poor ones; they are so much more grateful when I whip out the visa card and pay for her double whopper combo, and I get such a manly thrill of power out of that
OTOH, I am also always on the lookout for a fit, well-kept sugar mummy who will pick me up from outside Burger King in her Aston Martin and carry me away for some sweet luxury lurrrrrvin’ … say, what are you doing this weekend?
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
RRM – lol
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 6:12 pm
CK “Hagues You are proving to be a blithering idiot”
Right just because I wouldn’t want anything to do with a woman who had to spend $22k on looking and feeling good.
“I have never asked a man to pay for anything I can’t afford myself.” cf “Her final advice: So men, next time you take a single woman to dinner with the intent of asking her home afterwards, don’t ask her to split the bill. Just shut the fuck up and pay”
OK so you don’t ask him to pay, you just expect him to and if he doesn’t you wont sleep with him. Thats nice for you.
“I hope every woman going out with you knows in advance that they will be expected to pay for you.”
You will be happy to know (although a lot of women are disappointed) that I am off the market and happily married. And the best part is that my wife is good looking enough in her own right she doesn’t need to spend thousands of dollars to be so.
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 6:28 pm
Another Churchill quote.
“Mister Churchill you are drunk!!! you are a public disgrace!!!”
“Yes lady, I am drunk…..and you are ugly!….. the sad thing for you, is tommorrow I will be sober……but you will still be ugly!!!!”
Vote:July 24th, 2008 at 10:52 pm
CK doesn’t suffer fools. And good on her.
Whats more, she obviously goes out of her way to look-good.
If you can’t appreciate that, then don’t waste your time (or hers)
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