The cost of sex for women

July 23rd, 2008 at 4:20 pm by David Farrar

Most people will have seen a comment at some stage about how much money men spend on through dinners, presents, flowers etc.

has reversed the equation and calculated how much money a woman spends on looking beautiful for men. Her calculations are:

Hair monthly (basic not “hair extensions”) $300 per month = $3600
Waxing and other beauty treatments $100 per month = $1200
Massage, pedicures etc $100 per month = $1200
Make-up/skin cleansers/toners and moisturisers = $300
Annual clothing spend on clothes you only wear out to meet men or with your man = $3000
Personal trainer/gym fees/education and reading material = $300 per month = $3600
Shoes. I consider it compulsory to spend lots of money on fabulous shoes = $2000
Phone calls/Drinks/lunches and dinners with girlfriends to drown your sorrows of bad relationships ie. therapy = $500 per month = $6000
Condoms & contraceptive pills (because lets face it – men over 30 years old totally suck at carrying rubbers) = $400 annually
Sex toys (again men have no clue so girls have to buy – Kiwigirl I am calling you out, you can add a zero here) = $500 annually
Pregnancy and STD checks (compulsory for anyone with half a brain and lets face it – the man doesn’t have to worry about being pregnant in the morning) = $250 per annum

So my rough estimation is a cost of $22,050 annually spent on looking and feeling good in the most part for men.

Kate goes on to say that if she gets sex only once a week then women are paying $424 per bonk, so men should stop whiming about their costs.

Her final advice:

So men, next time you take a single woman to dinner with the intent of asking her home afterwards, don’t ask her to split the bill.

Just shut the fuck up and pay.

Other financial words of wisdom from Kate have been how you don’t book her to fly economy class if you are flying business class!

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54 Responses to “The cost of sex for women”

  1. dm (32 comments) says:

    But I thought women, “Looked beautiful for themselves, not men”.

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  2. Danyl Mclauchlan (1,069 comments) says:

    The reality is they look good to compete with and impress each other – guys are weirdly peripheral to the entire process.

    Take shoes – when was the last time any straight guy ever checked out a woman’s shoes? Yet they’ll happily lavish astronomical sums on tiny bits of leather and satin.

    [DPF: I never check shoes out in NZ, but in Paris I did because every French woman there wears nothing but the finest shoes. You see no one except tourists in sneakers etc]

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  3. spector (180 comments) says:

    They get all the money back and more after the divorce, so really you should look at it as an investment.

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  4. gd (2,286 comments) says:

    Just as well SHE WHO MUST BE OBEYED doesnt read CK or this blog. Otherwise Id be in the u know wot up to my arm pits.

    CK sure has a way to let the cat outta the bag and ruin the lives of we poor married men.

    It was sooooo much easier in the good old days when a burger and coke the back seat of the pictures followed by the back seat of the car was the standard modus operandi

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  5. Lucyna (35 comments) says:

    Well, courtesans have always been expensive.

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  6. Patrick Starr (3,674 comments) says:

    If the average single Kiwi woman is spending $22,050 annually on looking good they should study the Consumer Guarantees Act more closely

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  7. MikeE (555 comments) says:

    Thats a worse ROI than the railways….

    How long till the government Nationalises women as a strategic asset then?

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  8. Nigel Kearney (1,013 comments) says:

    Kate can save some of that money because I’m fairly sure men aren’t looking at the shoes.

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  9. roger nome (4,067 comments) says:

    A typically well-thought-out, and substantive post by Cactus Kate. I mean Jeze, talk about depth, she sounds like a female version of the main character in American Psycho.

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  10. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    If shes spending $424 on each bonk then boy do I have a bargin for her.

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  11. mara (784 comments) says:

    TOO MUCH INFORMATION KATE! Disclosing info. like that is about as wise, romance-wise, as hanging your douche-bag on your man’s bathroom door or waxing your legs on the dining room table while the bloke is eating. Men don’t need to know too much; it makes them nervous.

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  12. goodgod (1,348 comments) says:

    I can assure CK that there are a large amount of (clean) women out there who don’t spend anywhere near that amount and get sex more than once a week. There could be a $$ to action ratio that a girl shouldn’t go above if she wants to get maximum bang for her buck. Hell, maybe, just maybe, the dollars for dick approach just isn’t the most efficient? Probably something for an analyst at the “Ministry of Women’s Affairs” to look into.

    EDIT: LOL Murray’s in! LOL

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  13. Short Shriveled and Slightly to the Left (786 comments) says:

    $300 a month on hair!!!!!

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  14. Penelope (69 comments) says:

    Looking at that list, I realise how cheap plastic surgery really is! $300pm on hair, FFS!! OK, so I’m blessed with hair that needs cutting only about every four months, and I get it cut and coloured at different places, so spending only about $30 a month on colouring instead of $150, but for heaven’s sake!!!

    The shoes I totally agree with. And I reckon she’s underestimated the annual cost of cleansers/moisturisers/makeup by a significant degree. Everything else, she’s being ripped off!

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  15. bustedblonde (138 comments) says:

    not sure why she wants to spend all that money – as long as she perfects the art of a good blowy the boys wont ( pardon the pun) give a toss what she looks like!

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  16. djp (59 comments) says:

    that girl needs her head checked. I guess that explains the existence magazines like cosmopolitan however

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  17. casual watcher (289 comments) says:

    I have an image of CK in my head that reminds me of Patsy from AB Fab but with a brain and a real job. In reality is she that much larger than life or not ? I am potentially inviting her wrath but still keen to know.

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  18. Paul Marsden (998 comments) says:

    That bb shelia is a smart woman.

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  19. natural party of govt (461 comments) says:

    This line amused me

    “Personal trainer/gym fees/education and reading material”

    Both the order of priority and the fact that CK and other girls only read books or get educated in order to impress men.

    Sadly, I think she might be right.

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  20. bustedblonde (138 comments) says:

    Paul – comes from that fact I hail from the south – its been said Im not a bad bloke for a sheila…

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  21. grumpyoldhori (2,362 comments) says:

    bustedblonde
    Well you know the important things to keep a male happy.
    From Central are you ? :-)

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  22. Paul Marsden (998 comments) says:

    You’ve obviously perfected the art then, bb?? I’m impressed. (And here’s me thinking it was a hard road tryna find the perfect shelia)

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  23. JSF2008 (422 comments) says:

    It was called free love in my long haired hippy days CRAP, FREE LOVE?????, it allways cost me heaps of bourbons and cokes in my youth to get them in the sack

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  24. LabourDoesntWork (290 comments) says:

    What a bunch of crap….Feminists just can’t quit whining.
    One can’t shut the twittering neurotic up, but you could at least stop quoting her.

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  25. James (1,338 comments) says:

    # Lucyna (19) Add karma Subtract karma +4 Says:
    July 23rd, 2008 at 4:40 pm

    “Well, courtesans have always been expensive.”

    Meoooooww! Cat fight brewing between liberal love goddess and Mother Teressa wanabe.

    Touch! (in that hot lessie way if you please ladies!……no? bugger!)

    Paws!

    Engage!

    ;-)

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  26. grumpyoldhori (2,362 comments) says:

    JSF2008
    My old pa told me to stay away from cheap women.
    Where the hell does one find a cheap woman ?

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  27. toad (3,674 comments) says:

    Good one Cactus Kate. Up to your usual standard!

    The way to make things work is to actually discuss who pays before the event. Occasionally you might just want to offer, but neither person, regardless of gender or wealth, should have those expectations. Someimes one person’s ability to pay is much greater than the others – so make some mutually agreed arrangements.

    As for the sex bit, if it feels right to both (or 3 or 4, if that’s what you’re into) then do it, but who has paid for what shouldn’t be a factor if it is a friendship/relationship you are after.

    If you just want a f**k, then go to a brothel and pay for it or pick someone up in a bar and let them clearly know that is all you are after.

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  28. Patrick Starr (3,674 comments) says:

    Yes Roger Nome and Toad – we all realise you would be shocked at that, like hey, what does a number 4 hair cut and nose piercing cost for the average green feminazi these days?

    Look at it this way, Helen would have spent 100 times that on air brushing alone – (and it still didn’t work!)

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  29. side show bob (3,660 comments) says:

    Brought my wife a new pair of gumboots and a new shed apron in town today, should be in tonight.

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  30. Buggerlugs (1,592 comments) says:

    Yes, and then there are some women who spend $22K p.a. on all that when they should have been concentrating on their personality…

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  31. Paul Marsden (998 comments) says:

    For those men that don’t know it (yet), and for those women who haven’t yet found it …..the clitoris is located between the ears.

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  32. stephen (4,063 comments) says:

    “Shoes. I consider it compulsory to spend lots of money on fabulous shoes = $2000″

    *splutter*

    Good thing CK isn’t running for Prime Minister with all the flattering posts coming out of Kiwiblog these days…

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  33. Buggerlugs (1,592 comments) says:

    Paul Marsden – that’s not true – I just tried licking my wife’s face and she punched me. I said “Didn’t that turn you on?” and she hit me again.

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  34. Paul Marsden (998 comments) says:

    buggerlugs. Occasionally, you may strike a mutant.

    Have you called the police?

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  35. Hagues (703 comments) says:

    Holy Crap. If I met a girl who wasted all that just on “looking and feeling good” I wouldn’t want a bar of it, talk about high mantainence. On the other hand if she droped the ‘tude and instead of bitching about splitting the bill actually offered to get it herself, she’d be half way there at least.

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  36. OECD rank 22 kiwi (2,752 comments) says:

    Reminds me of the Winston Churchill quote:

    Churchill: Madam, would you sleep with me for five million pounds?
    Socialite: My goodness, Mr. Churchill… Well, I suppose… we would have to discuss terms, of course…
    Churchill: Would you sleep with me for five pounds?
    Socialite: Mr. Churchill, what kind of woman do you think I am?!
    Churchill: Madam, we’ve already established that. Now we are haggling about the price.

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  37. dime (9,972 comments) says:

    $300 on hair.. umm yeah??

    you guys never dated a hot chick?

    personally, id rather have a chick that spent plenty on herself tha one that shopped at the warehouse..

    i know roger and the leftists wouldnt understand, all their chicks are ugly..

    when was the last time ya saw a really hot chick protesting? doesnt happen often!

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  38. Ryan Sproull (7,143 comments) says:

    I like how gym fees are combined with “education and reading material”, suggesting that the more a woman spends on one, the less she spends on the other.

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  39. Ryan Sproull (7,143 comments) says:

    when was the last time ya saw a really hot chick protesting? doesnt happen often!

    My friend, you’ve been attending the wrong protests.

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  40. stephen (4,063 comments) says:

    well if they have to spend 300 on hair to look hot – then they ain’t hot.

    edit: that made sense in my head

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  41. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    Maybe it should stayed there.

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  42. Cactus Kate (551 comments) says:

    yes Lucyna, well as you are stuck in the 16th century believing everyone who has same sex, extramarital and pre-marital sex and those who use contraception are destined for an after-life of hell, its only appropriate you use the term “courtesan”.

    Of course in the 21st century there are women like myself who earn substantially more than men do doing what they do, finance their own (sometimes hedonistic) lifestyles to a better standard than men their own age do and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself. This upsets the female Churchy romantics like yourself as it undermines your belief that you can’t live a meaningful life without a husband to bake for.

    The true courtesans are women who end up marrying or defacto RPA’ing a wealthy man for the euphemistic term of “security” and therefore use their sexuality to provide themselves a lifestyle from that man that on their own the woman could never have afforded to finance.

    There’s plenty of them around and therefore I think paying for a bloody dinner is the least I can demand.

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  43. Cactus Kate (551 comments) says:

    Hagues

    It’s safe to say that we won’t be going out any time soon.

    Rogernome

    I can’t recall that screen character however if it involves killing a twit like yourself in cold blood, I am all for it.

    Mara

    It’s safe to say I somehow do not seem to get too many “nervous” men approaching me anyway.

    Stephen

    Straight men should never be allowed an opinion on the cost of hair. You have obviously never investigated the cost of the “colour” component for hair, or walked into a city hair salon even in Auckland. $300 is moderately cheap. The actual price in HK for a cut and colour at Toni and Guy for average length hair is around $NZ600…pity the women with longer hair it can reach close to $800. Ditto the UK.

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  44. Hagues (703 comments) says:

    Cactus Kate “and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself”

    I though you wanted him to pay for your share of dinner?

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  45. Hagues (703 comments) says:

    Cactus Kate “Hagues It’s safe to say that we won’t be going out any time soon.”

    Yes considering I said I wouldn’t have a bar of anyone of your ilk thats a very safe bet.

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  46. RRM (9,919 comments) says:

    Well I think that says more about Cactus Kate’s disposable income than anything else.

    When I review my “career” to date, out of all the significant others the most significant ones have generally not pulled down much more than $22,050 in after-tax income, let alone managed (or desired) to blow that much money on make-up et cetera!

    Or is Cactus Kate a bit like the QE2, in that keeping the old girl looking good is by definition an expensive business? :-D

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  47. Dr Robotnik (533 comments) says:

    “Or is Cactus Kate a bit like the QE2, in that keeping the old girl looking good is by definition an expensive business?”

    Coupled with regular viral outbreaks caused by dodgy seamen?

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  48. Cactus Kate (551 comments) says:

    Hagues

    You are proving to be a blithering idiot. You should engage pee-brain before commenting on an adults blog.

    “Cactus Kate “and therefore don’t actually ask for anything from a man that she can’t actually afford to buy herself” I though you wanted him to pay for your share of dinner?”

    That is entirely my point, I can afford to buy it myself and I have never asked a man to pay for anything I can’t afford myself. I doubt you could afford to eat at McDonalds more than once a week therefore your input is of course going to be rather stunted. I hope every woman going out with you knows in advance that they will be expected to pay for you.

    RRM (assume a man based on the context of your comment)

    You are never going to understand the initial post if you are dating women that take home $22K in the hand. Students can earn more than that working part-time. You obviously like dating down as it makes you feel superior about your own shortcomings as a man.

    If you knew more about the QE2 you will know that it will be decommissioned late 2008 and turned into I imagine a highly profitable hotel in Dubai.

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  49. Pascal (1,969 comments) says:

    Short and Shriveled and something about Left: $300 a month on hair!!!!!

    That actually seems a bit low to me. My wife is a stylist. Admittedly, she only works privately and at request but it’s unlikely that somebody would walk away without spending at least that.

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  50. RRM (9,919 comments) says:

    Yo Katie – strangely, I have found that most of them have had qualities as human beings that sort-of made up for their shortcomings as earners – who’d have thought, eh?

    But you’re right and I do love dating the poor ones; they are so much more grateful when I whip out the visa card and pay for her double whopper combo, and I get such a manly thrill of power out of that :-)

    OTOH, I am also always on the lookout for a fit, well-kept sugar mummy who will pick me up from outside Burger King in her Aston Martin and carry me away for some sweet luxury lurrrrrvin’ … say, what are you doing this weekend?

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  51. getstaffed (9,186 comments) says:

    RRM – lol :)

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  52. Hagues (703 comments) says:

    CK “Hagues You are proving to be a blithering idiot”

    Right just because I wouldn’t want anything to do with a woman who had to spend $22k on looking and feeling good.

    “I have never asked a man to pay for anything I can’t afford myself.” cf “Her final advice: So men, next time you take a single woman to dinner with the intent of asking her home afterwards, don’t ask her to split the bill. Just shut the fuck up and pay”

    OK so you don’t ask him to pay, you just expect him to and if he doesn’t you wont sleep with him. Thats nice for you.

    “I hope every woman going out with you knows in advance that they will be expected to pay for you.”

    You will be happy to know (although a lot of women are disappointed) that I am off the market and happily married. And the best part is that my wife is good looking enough in her own right she doesn’t need to spend thousands of dollars to be so.

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  53. Shunda barunda (2,983 comments) says:

    Another Churchill quote.

    “Mister Churchill you are drunk!!! you are a public disgrace!!!”

    “Yes lady, I am drunk…..and you are ugly!….. the sad thing for you, is tommorrow I will be sober……but you will still be ugly!!!!”

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  54. Paul Marsden (998 comments) says:

    CK doesn’t suffer fools. And good on her.

    Whats more, she obviously goes out of her way to look-good.

    If you can’t appreciate that, then don’t waste your time (or hers)

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