Homestay Guidelines
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:00 am by David FarrarThe Herald reports:
A homestay host wants the Education Ministry to issue guidelines on sexual matters after catching his 45-year-old wife having sex with a teenage foreign student the couple were hosting.
The North Shore man – who did not want to be named – said he had contacted police after his wife’s encounter with the 19-year-old South American, but was told they were powerless to help as the student was legally an adult.
Ummm, I think he need guidelines for his wife, not for the homestay students!
I mean one could tell homestay students that it is a bad idea to have sex with the wife of the host you are staying with. But I figured he knew that.
The man said he had faced issues in the past, where international students he hosted sneaked friends into the house late at night for sex.
“We really need to know what we can do in such situations, and I’ve suggested they add it to their pastoral care code. Is this something international students should be allowed to get away with?”
Well if you don’t let them smuggle their friends in for sex, then they end up having sex with your wife, so personally I’d let them bring home friends.
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July 23rd, 2010 at 10:05 am
This family are idiots.
Vote:Parents Inc in their toolbox program teach that you should have house rules that everyone knows and adheres to for your teenagers and family.
A curfew and rule on guests in the private parts of the house should suffice, if they break them they are out.
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:08 am
Typical leftie, it’s always the Government’s fault. I suggest you have a talk with your wife sunshine. Quite happy to take the money but when things turn to shit you blame everyone except yourself and your wife.
Vote:What a joke
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:08 am
Does he live in a brothel? Sounds like his place is a night life hot-spot for the shore. Can I have his address?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:15 am
Dude your wife is ho, either pimp her out or throw her out.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:18 am
hmm…I hope the guy had the student leave his house…though his wife may be a bit upset… what are the rules around that are they send back home or to another homestay or are they forced to live in awkwardness with the situation at hand…
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:21 am
…..faced issues in the past……and continued to take on more,what a plank!
…..phoned the cops about it…….what a plank!
Teenager,are you kidding? 19 is a young adult!
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:22 am
Variety is the spice of life … lucky lady, silly man.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:22 am
I wonder what his marketing looks like – “South Seas Bordello [insert photo of wife]“. Perhaps the Herald are providing free advertising for him. Is a commercial manager there being paid in kind?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:26 am
Ummm, I think he need guidelines for his wife, not for the homestay students!
That is some funny funny stuff.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:27 am
Homestay guidlines: You do my wife, I do you.
Seems fairly obvious if you have your on testicles. Could be a clue why his wife jumped the fence.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:30 am
The guy is crazy. I had a go at developing some guidelines for the Ministry of Education.
Vote:http://www.ed.co.nz/2010/07/23/sex-and-the-homestay-host/
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:39 am
Murray-Homestay guidlines: “You do my wife, I do you.
Seems fairly obvious if you have your on testicles. Could be a clue why his wife jumped the fence”
Where did you get the student being a female from? I automatically figured the student was a guy.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:40 am
The North Shore man – who did not want to be named ————————–
Why not ?you watery sad excuse for a human being.
Your missus is fucking around on you and the best you can do is run off to the Police, who I hoped laughed you off the phone
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:40 am
Surely we don’t need guidelines on what any adult would regard as common sense on what is required. Too many adults are still children and want quidelines on how to go to the toilet and everything else.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:42 am
lol poor bastard
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:42 am
Isn’t”cuckold” such a wonderful descriptive noun.
Vote:I wonder how many striking 19 yo female students they have hosted.
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:42 am
The overhyped English-language for foreigners industry will identify this as a great marketing ploy. Home stay, and for an extra fee or sometimes thrown in free, home play. Or, more generally: “Auckland, a great fucking place to learn English”.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:46 am
It’s another one of those unwritten rules of etiquette isn’t it – never bed your host’s wife unless it’s absolutely necessary
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:49 am
This tag needs a humour tag, seriously it’s hilarious.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:49 am
Shazzadude: I made no such error.
1. Do has several meanings particularly to people familiar with arms.
Vote:2. Why do you think a male is safe from being done by another male?
July 23rd, 2010 at 10:53 am
I figured that’s what you meant by “jumped the fence”, but ok.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 10:56 am
Perhaps the student wasn’t much good at geography and thought he was in Alaska or Siberia:
Inuit & Aleut
“Inuit wife trading has often been reported and commented on …”[39]
Temporary “wife-lending … was apparently more common among the Aleuts than Eskimos”. Several motivations for temporary spouse-trading are practiced among the Eskimo:[40]
* at the instigation of an aŋekok (shaman), as a magical rite to achieve better weather for hunting-expeditions;
* as a regular feature of the annual “Bladder Festival”;
* for a man visiting without being accompanied his wife, under the promise that he will in the future make his own wife sexually available to his host whenever the host will himself come visiting his erstwhile guest.
Among the Inuit, a very specialized and socially-proscribed form of wife-sharing was practiced. When hunters were away, they would often stumble into the tribal lands of other tribes, and be subject to death for the offense. But, when they could show a “relationship” by virtue of a man, father or grandfather who had sex with their wife, mother or other female relatives, the wandering hunter was then regarded as family. The Inuit had specific terminology and language describing the complex relationships that emerged from this practice of wife sharing. A man called another man “aipak” if the man had sex with his wife. Aipak means, “other me.” So, in their conception, this other man sleeping with one’s wife was just “another me.”[41]
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:00 am
@Jack5 – A hilarious Learn English ad. [Language warning!]
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:01 am
“* as a regular feature of the annual “Bladder Festival”;”
I hold a bladder festival daily. As soon as I get out of bed usually (unlike Robin Bain). Perhaps he was an Eskimo?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:02 am
Who’s the daddy?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:03 am
***We really need to know what we can do in such situations, and I’ve suggested they add it to their pastoral care code. Is this something international students should be allowed to get away with?”***
Is this guy Ned Flanders?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:08 am
@Steve 10:08 am
I think you’ll find lefties will think his call for the Police and the Ministry of Education to get involved ridiculous too Steve. I certainly do.
His wife goes elsewhere because he doesn’t do the business well enough and/or often enough, and he thinks the Government should intervene. What a dork!
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:10 am
I hope ‘North Shore man’ is reading this thread
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:20 am
“His wife goes elsewhere because he doesn’t do the business well enough and/or often enough, and he thinks the Government should intervene. What a dork!”
So women only cheat if men dont ‘bring their A game’?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:27 am
Strange logic there DPF.
Maybe the guy should of allowed him to bring people home for him to kill.
Just in case the student killed his missus instead.
[DPF: Killing is not consensual. The sex was]
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:28 am
1.3 SEXUAL CONTACT
1.3.1 You should not have sexual contact with homestay students.
Vote:1.3.2 Your wife should not have sexual contact with homestay students.
1.3.3 Should sexual contact between your wife and the homestay student occur, please refer to 5.9.6(c) for information on the complaints procedures, or call our helpline on 0800 YOU LOSE 3-INCH CHARLIE
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:29 am
Article doesn’t even say if the wife is hot or not..
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:30 am
Emmess – go you! Teenagers having sex is totally the same thing as killing people!
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:32 am
The first time we hear one of his racist comments is when he’s talking to Brabantio about Othello and Desdemona,
“Even now, very now, an old black ram is tupping your white ewe”.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:43 am
Is that so AG. I better head up the mountain with my rifle and see what the wife is up to!
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:48 am
emmess – aside from the appalling logic gap in your argument, it’s ‘should have’, not ‘should of’.
Vote:God I hate bad grammar.
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:55 am
All a bit silly really. To fix the student problem he should –
Vote:a. go to the school which is providing the student and complain to them, it’s nothing to do with the law.
b. refrain from hosting Brazilians.
Then he can talk to the wife.
July 23rd, 2010 at 11:57 am
I used to hate my bad grammar too. I felt bad when she died though.
I have to wonder if the police could have arrested the wife for adultery? Is that still one of our laws?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 11:58 am
If I was him I would ask the Brazilian student to send his sister next year.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:03 pm
Rather than getting mad this guy needs to get even.
http://theguide.org.za/2010soccerworldcup/fans/hot%20brazillian%20fans.jpg
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:14 pm
Northshore hardly a lefty… just a husband with a bruised ego… that thinks everybody should play by the rules…
First get rid of the wife… no doubt she knows the rules.. and takes him for fool… not a ride…
The wife might be a past beauty queen trying to have a baby… then he needs to pay the homestay students for his services.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:17 pm
American Gardner @ 11.32
I never knew Othello was set in Christchurch, thanks, that explains alot re: donkey shagging etc
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:17 pm
I bet when his wife said “Honey, I want a brazilian” he said “yeeessss”.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:33 pm
Why he is spewing about this is the reallity has hit home he has just kissed goodbye to half of his assets. The slapper is gone and his marriage is toast. Thanks to the crap matrimony property laws this slapper gets a payout for jumping the fence.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 12:43 pm
Well who said it was a he.? Eh?
Vote:Typical men always get the blame, ask D4J.
The wife might be one of Helens mob. (.)(;)
July 23rd, 2010 at 12:43 pm
Half the assets all the fun… That’s why he’s gone to all this trouble… to build a case to get more than his share..
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 1:38 pm
Just goes to show how emasculated New Zealand men have become and how degraded New Zealand women are.
An ugly story the morals of which I wont comment on here because it would go over just about everybody’s head.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 2:07 pm
This shows just what kind of people we are letting into this country. If you want to come here, you need to speak this language and contribute to society.
We shouldn’t let morally bankrupt riff-raff come here. New Zealand isn’t the destination for the leftovers of other countries’ populations.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 2:14 pm
On an entirely unrelated matter, what about that black couple who had a white kid?
Medical science is entirely stumped and at a loss to explain.
Damn… wonder what happened.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 3:27 pm
Only if you consider a single and self-selecting example to be representative of all the men and women in NZ.
Don’t abandon us, Andrei! Without your gracious explanation we’ll never find the answer to that eternal dilemma: Should I or should I not have it off with my host’s wife?
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 3:31 pm
She may have been a real hottie Mrs Robinson type. I really hope so otherwise this story is really disturbing.
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 3:31 pm
Another masochist checks into Kiwiblog for therapy
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 3:57 pm
I’ll go out on limb. I really can’t say with any certainly that were I a 19 year-old exchange student and the charming lady of the house desired a little extra-curricular activity, that I’d say “I’m sorry Mrs Robinson, but I really don’t think that would the right thing to do. Granted you’re very sexy and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t thought about it, but I am going to save myself.”
I’ll get my coat..
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 5:45 pm
Well, the husband probably needs more guidelines on how to satisfy his wife otherwise she wouldn’t be having sex with 19 year old fit Latino boys.
Why would you continue taking homestays into your home if they have previously ‘broken the rules’ by having sex in your house. Homestay families get paid to host these foreign children. I wonder if that $250 or so was worth having your wife shagged by a 19 year old.
And then to take it to the PRESS. Dude!!
supporting http://www.angel-charlene.com
Vote:July 23rd, 2010 at 9:35 pm
My wife advises that the women’s section at her golf club wish to pursue this Home Hosting lark.
Vote:Can any bloggers provide her with the address?