Homestay Guidelines

July 23rd, 2010 at 10:00 am by David Farrar

The Herald reports:

A homestay host wants the Education Ministry to issue guidelines on sexual matters after catching his 45-year-old wife having with a teenage foreign student the couple were hosting.

The North Shore man – who did not want to be named – said he had contacted police after his wife’s encounter with the 19-year-old South American, but was told they were powerless to help as the student was legally an adult.

Ummm, I think he need guidelines for his wife, not for the homestay students!

I mean one could tell homestay students that it is a bad idea to have sex with the wife of the host you are staying with. But I figured he knew that.

The man said he had faced issues in the past, where international students he hosted sneaked friends into the house late at night for sex.

“We really need to know what we can do in such situations, and I’ve suggested they add it to their pastoral care code. Is this something international students should be allowed to get away with?”

Well if you don’t let them smuggle their friends in for sex, then they end up having sex with your wife, so personally I’d let them bring home friends.

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55 Responses to “Homestay Guidelines”

  1. MikeNZ (3,234 comments) says:

    This family are idiots.
    Parents Inc in their toolbox program teach that you should have house rules that everyone knows and adheres to for your teenagers and family.
    A curfew and rule on guests in the private parts of the house should suffice, if they break them they are out.

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  2. Steve (4,564 comments) says:

    Typical leftie, it’s always the Government’s fault. I suggest you have a talk with your wife sunshine. Quite happy to take the money but when things turn to shit you blame everyone except yourself and your wife.
    What a joke

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  3. Jibbering Gibbon (198 comments) says:

    Does he live in a brothel? Sounds like his place is a night life hot-spot for the shore. Can I have his address?

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  4. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    Dude your wife is ho, either pimp her out or throw her out.

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  5. MIKMS (167 comments) says:

    hmm…I hope the guy had the student leave his house…though his wife may be a bit upset… what are the rules around that are they send back home or to another homestay or are they forced to live in awkwardness with the situation at hand…

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  6. kowtow (8,512 comments) says:

    …..faced issues in the past……and continued to take on more,what a plank!

    …..phoned the cops about it…….what a plank!

    Teenager,are you kidding? 19 is a young adult!

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  7. jcuknz (704 comments) says:

    Variety is the spice of life … lucky lady, silly man.

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  8. krazykiwi (9,186 comments) says:

    The man said he had faced issues in the past, where international students he hosted sneaked friends into the house late at night for sex.

    I wonder what his marketing looks like – “South Seas Bordello [insert photo of wife]“. Perhaps the Herald are providing free advertising for him. Is a commercial manager there being paid in kind?

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  9. stephen (4,063 comments) says:

    Ummm, I think he need guidelines for his wife, not for the homestay students!

    That is some funny funny stuff.

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  10. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    Homestay guidlines: You do my wife, I do you.

    Seems fairly obvious if you have your on testicles. Could be a clue why his wife jumped the fence.

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  11. Dave Guerin (32 comments) says:

    The guy is crazy. I had a go at developing some guidelines for the Ministry of Education.
    http://www.ed.co.nz/2010/07/23/sex-and-the-homestay-host/

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  12. Shazzadude (529 comments) says:

    Murray-Homestay guidlines: “You do my wife, I do you.

    Seems fairly obvious if you have your on testicles. Could be a clue why his wife jumped the fence”

    Where did you get the student being a female from? I automatically figured the student was a guy.

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  13. Pauleastbay (5,035 comments) says:

    The North Shore man – who did not want to be named ————————–

    Why not ?you watery sad excuse for a human being.

    Your missus is fucking around on you and the best you can do is run off to the Police, who I hoped laughed you off the phone

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  14. tvb (4,430 comments) says:

    Surely we don’t need guidelines on what any adult would regard as common sense on what is required. Too many adults are still children and want quidelines on how to go to the toilet and everything else.

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  15. dime (9,977 comments) says:

    lol poor bastard

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  16. gravedodger (1,566 comments) says:

    Isn’t”cuckold” such a wonderful descriptive noun.
    I wonder how many striking 19 yo female students they have hosted.

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  17. Jack5 (5,137 comments) says:

    The overhyped English-language for foreigners industry will identify this as a great marketing ploy. Home stay, and for an extra fee or sometimes thrown in free, home play. Or, more generally: “Auckland, a great fucking place to learn English”.

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  18. Inventory2 (10,342 comments) says:

    It’s another one of those unwritten rules of etiquette isn’t it – never bed your host’s wife unless it’s absolutely necessary :-)

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  19. Nigel (516 comments) says:

    This tag needs a humour tag, seriously it’s hilarious.

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  20. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    Shazzadude: I made no such error.

    1. Do has several meanings particularly to people familiar with arms.
    2. Why do you think a male is safe from being done by another male?

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  21. Shazzadude (529 comments) says:

    I figured that’s what you meant by “jumped the fence”, but ok.

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  22. Johnboy (16,651 comments) says:

    Perhaps the student wasn’t much good at geography and thought he was in Alaska or Siberia: :)

    Inuit & Aleut

    “Inuit wife trading has often been reported and commented on …”[39]

    Temporary “wife-lending … was apparently more common among the Aleuts than Eskimos”. Several motivations for temporary spouse-trading are practiced among the Eskimo:[40]

    * at the instigation of an aŋekok (shaman), as a magical rite to achieve better weather for hunting-expeditions;
    * as a regular feature of the annual “Bladder Festival”;
    * for a man visiting without being accompanied his wife, under the promise that he will in the future make his own wife sexually available to his host whenever the host will himself come visiting his erstwhile guest.

    Among the Inuit, a very specialized and socially-proscribed form of wife-sharing was practiced. When hunters were away, they would often stumble into the tribal lands of other tribes, and be subject to death for the offense. But, when they could show a “relationship” by virtue of a man, father or grandfather who had sex with their wife, mother or other female relatives, the wandering hunter was then regarded as family. The Inuit had specific terminology and language describing the complex relationships that emerged from this practice of wife sharing. A man called another man “aipak” if the man had sex with his wife. Aipak means, “other me.” So, in their conception, this other man sleeping with one’s wife was just “another me.”[41]

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  23. krazykiwi (9,186 comments) says:

    @Jack5 – A hilarious Learn English ad. [Language warning!]

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  24. Johnboy (16,651 comments) says:

    “* as a regular feature of the annual “Bladder Festival”;”

    I hold a bladder festival daily. As soon as I get out of bed usually (unlike Robin Bain). Perhaps he was an Eskimo? :)

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  25. RRM (9,932 comments) says:

    Who’s the daddy?

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  26. Bob R (1,377 comments) says:

    ***We really need to know what we can do in such situations, and I’ve suggested they add it to their pastoral care code. Is this something international students should be allowed to get away with?”***

    Is this guy Ned Flanders?

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  27. toad (3,674 comments) says:

    @Steve 10:08 am

    I think you’ll find lefties will think his call for the Police and the Ministry of Education to get involved ridiculous too Steve. I certainly do.

    His wife goes elsewhere because he doesn’t do the business well enough and/or often enough, and he thinks the Government should intervene. What a dork!

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  28. krazykiwi (9,186 comments) says:

    I hope ‘North Shore man’ is reading this thread :)

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  29. Short Shriveled and Slightly to the Left (786 comments) says:

    “His wife goes elsewhere because he doesn’t do the business well enough and/or often enough, and he thinks the Government should intervene. What a dork!”

    So women only cheat if men dont ‘bring their A game’?

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  30. emmess (1,428 comments) says:

    Well if you don’t let them smuggle their friends in for sex, then they end up having sex with your wife, so personally I’d let them bring home friends.

    Strange logic there DPF.
    Maybe the guy should of allowed him to bring people home for him to kill.
    Just in case the student killed his missus instead.

    [DPF: Killing is not consensual. The sex was]

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  31. RRM (9,932 comments) says:

    1.3 SEXUAL CONTACT

    1.3.1 You should not have sexual contact with homestay students.
    1.3.2 Your wife should not have sexual contact with homestay students.
    1.3.3 Should sexual contact between your wife and the homestay student occur, please refer to 5.9.6(c) for information on the complaints procedures, or call our helpline on 0800 YOU LOSE 3-INCH CHARLIE

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  32. MikeE (555 comments) says:

    Article doesn’t even say if the wife is hot or not..

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  33. RRM (9,932 comments) says:

    Emmess – go you! Teenagers having sex is totally the same thing as killing people!

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  34. American Gardener (556 comments) says:

    The first time we hear one of his racist comments is when he’s talking to Brabantio about Othello and Desdemona,

    “Even now, very now, an old black ram is tupping your white ewe”.

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  35. Johnboy (16,651 comments) says:

    Is that so AG. I better head up the mountain with my rifle and see what the wife is up to!

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  36. Mr Elbow (30 comments) says:

    emmess – aside from the appalling logic gap in your argument, it’s ‘should have’, not ‘should of’.
    God I hate bad grammar.

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  37. richgraham (28 comments) says:

    All a bit silly really. To fix the student problem he should –
    a. go to the school which is providing the student and complain to them, it’s nothing to do with the law.
    b. refrain from hosting Brazilians.
    Then he can talk to the wife.

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  38. RightNow (6,994 comments) says:

    I used to hate my bad grammar too. I felt bad when she died though.

    I have to wonder if the police could have arrested the wife for adultery? Is that still one of our laws?

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  39. Johnboy (16,651 comments) says:

    If I was him I would ask the Brazilian student to send his sister next year.

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  40. Bob R (1,377 comments) says:

    Rather than getting mad this guy needs to get even.

    http://theguide.org.za/2010soccerworldcup/fans/hot%20brazillian%20fans.jpg

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  41. RKBee (1,344 comments) says:

    Northshore hardly a lefty… just a husband with a bruised ego… that thinks everybody should play by the rules…

    First get rid of the wife… no doubt she knows the rules.. and takes him for fool… not a ride…

    The wife might be a past beauty queen trying to have a baby… then he needs to pay the homestay students for his services.

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  42. Pauleastbay (5,035 comments) says:

    American Gardner @ 11.32

    I never knew Othello was set in Christchurch, thanks, that explains alot re: donkey shagging etc

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  43. Brian Smaller (4,023 comments) says:

    I bet when his wife said “Honey, I want a brazilian” he said “yeeessss”.

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  44. Jimbob (641 comments) says:

    Why he is spewing about this is the reallity has hit home he has just kissed goodbye to half of his assets. The slapper is gone and his marriage is toast. Thanks to the crap matrimony property laws this slapper gets a payout for jumping the fence.

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  45. Viking2 (11,484 comments) says:

    Well who said it was a he.? Eh?
    Typical men always get the blame, ask D4J.
    The wife might be one of Helens mob. (.)(;)

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  46. RKBee (1,344 comments) says:

    Half the assets all the fun… That’s why he’s gone to all this trouble… to build a case to get more than his share..

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  47. andrei (2,664 comments) says:

    Just goes to show how emasculated New Zealand men have become and how degraded New Zealand women are.

    An ugly story the morals of which I wont comment on here because it would go over just about everybody’s head.

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  48. Murray (8,847 comments) says:

    On an entirely unrelated matter, what about that black couple who had a white kid?

    Medical science is entirely stumped and at a loss to explain.

    Damn… wonder what happened.

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  49. malcolm (1,952 comments) says:

    Just goes to show how emasculated New Zealand men have become and how degraded New Zealand women are.

    Only if you consider a single and self-selecting example to be representative of all the men and women in NZ.

    An ugly story the morals of which I wont comment on here because it would go over just about everybody’s head.

    Don’t abandon us, Andrei! Without your gracious explanation we’ll never find the answer to that eternal dilemma: Should I or should I not have it off with my host’s wife?

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  50. Brian Smaller (4,023 comments) says:

    Don’t abandon us, Andrei! Without your gracious explanation we’ll never find the answer to that eternal dilemma: Should I or should I not have it off with my host’s wife?

    She may have been a real hottie Mrs Robinson type. I really hope so otherwise this story is really disturbing.

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  51. krazykiwi (9,186 comments) says:

    God I hate bad grammar.

    Another masochist checks into Kiwiblog for therapy :D

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  52. malcolm (1,952 comments) says:

    She may have been a real hottie Mrs Robinson type. I really hope so otherwise this story is really disturbing.

    I’ll go out on limb. I really can’t say with any certainly that were I a 19 year-old exchange student and the charming lady of the house desired a little extra-curricular activity, that I’d say “I’m sorry Mrs Robinson, but I really don’t think that would the right thing to do. Granted you’re very sexy and I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t thought about it, but I am going to save myself.”

    I’ll get my coat..

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  53. Tauhei Notts (1,721 comments) says:

    My wife advises that the women’s section at her golf club wish to pursue this Home Hosting lark.
    Can any bloggers provide her with the address?

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