Always know the answer

January 11th, 2012 at 8:41 am by David Farrar

Stuff reports:

A hopeful groom-to-be suffered the most public of rejections when his proposal at a basketball game was blocked in front of hundreds of fans.

The young man got down on one knee at the UCLA game in California and pulled out a ring live on the stadium’s “mistletoe cam” just before Christmas.

“I knew I was going to do this the first day I met you, so I know this is going to sound corny but … will you marry me?” he said.

But rather than a happy yes, the young woman shook her head.

Her boyfriend could only watch in horror as she grabbed her bag and left the area to jeers from the crowd.

In politics there is a saying, that you should never ask a question that you do not already know the answer to.

I think the same maxim should apply to proposals – or at least public proposals.

A successful public marriage proposal can be sweet and endearing and a memory to last a lifetime. But you should not be doing it unless you are absolutely sure what the answer will be.

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14 Responses to “Always know the answer”

  1. Brian Smaller (3,966 comments) says:

    What a loser. I laughed at that story. Dumping all that pressure on a woman in public like that – not sure it is actually that romantic. Plan B – while at the hotdog stand might have been better.

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  2. Jimbob (641 comments) says:

    Wingnut.

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  3. Monty (899 comments) says:

    Haaah Haah

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  4. jonnobanks (148 comments) says:

    Looks fake

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  5. suzie q (24 comments) says:

    As someone who recently go engaged I always knew I didn’t want the big flashy proposal, just something quiet and intimate as it is a very personal moment in my opinion.

    I feel sorry for this guy but at the same time admire the woman for having the courage to turn him down because it didn’t feel right.

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  6. adze (2,130 comments) says:

    Susie q – what date? I got engaged on Xmas day (2011).

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  7. ephemera (557 comments) says:

    I suspect the guy knew the answer, but wanted to make it impossible for his partner to say no.

    As suzie q just said, kudos to the woman for having the courage.

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  8. Vinick (218 comments) says:

    She appeared happy to start with, but after looking at the ring (A LONG TIME) shook her head.

    Larger rock next time, bud.

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  9. bc (1,395 comments) says:

    Oh that’s tragic. I’ve never understood the idea of public marriage proposals – it seems like it’s such an intimate thing to me. Maybe it’s a generational thing. Generation Y, Z (??) have grown up with social media such as twitter making them the centre of attention whenever they want it. The ego’s taking a hammering now tho!

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  10. Longknives (4,954 comments) says:

    I’m instantly suspicious of anything that ‘goes viral’…..I suspect they are two young aspiring ‘reality TV’ stars or desperate to-be-famous ‘wannabes’. Watch this space

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  11. Daigotsu (471 comments) says:

    I’m sure this guy thought he was obeying DPF’s rule of “only ask if you’re sure of the answer’.

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  12. East Wellington Superhero (1,139 comments) says:

    @ Longknives

    I agree. Looks fake. He does a faux-embarrassed. Also, there’s a camera up close, and a camera in the stand. But they seem to be edited together fairly seamlessly. I say it’s fake.

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  13. burt (7,425 comments) says:

    suzie q

    As someone who recently go engaged I always knew I didn’t want the big flashy proposal, just something quiet and intimate as it is a very personal moment in my opinion.

    You made me remember talking to a friend years ago just after she split up with her husband. She had made some comment about getting married for a silly reason and I asked her to tell me more. She said they were shagging and he asked her, she was ‘moments away’ and thought if I say NO he will stop!

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  14. chiz (1,174 comments) says:

    Also, there’s a camera up close, and a camera in the stand. But they seem to be edited together fairly seamlessly. I say it’s fake.

    Hard to tell. These sorts of public proposals are sometimes arranged beforehand with the venue owners.

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